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Written by Mitzy Moon Majors
Friday, 13 November 2009 13:33
Dear Mitzy,
I am a 29-year-old woman who has never been married. I have had a number of fairly long-term relationships each lasting around 2 years. Some of been live-in, some live-out. Here's my pattern: I seem to fall in love rather quickly. I get attracted to someone and before I know it, we're an item. All goes well for six months or so. Then "it" starts. "It" is the weird behavior, the pulling away, the acting ambivalent, etc. So this goes on for a while and then I start to feel used and abused, neglected and rejected etc. so I put up with things and then I can't take it anymore. This usually lasts for about a year and then I begin to separate which also takes me awhile. After each of these experiences I withdraw for about three months. Then I come out of hiding, meet someone new, and the cycle begins again. The first one or two times this happened, I didn't think too much about it except that I picked jerks. Now, after 4 or 5 times, I'm beginning to wonder if all men are jerks, or if maybe I have something to do with it. Help me!
Dear Mitzy I am getting married in four months. I have been engaged for four years. However, my fiancee and I have at least two major issues. I just don't know if this is serious enough for me to consider backing down from marriage. My fiancee and I are not seeing eye to eye on money issues. He feels that when we are married once the bills are paid for each person should have allowance money to spend. The catch is the other person should not ask what the money was spent on. An example is, he spends money on CD's or a football jersey that's over $200.00. If he used it from his allowance money I should not complain. I'm not ok with this. My parents have been together for over 30 years and consult every detail of their expenses together. My fiancee feels that this is like "reporting" to the mate. My other problem is that whenever something bothers me (other than money matters), I feel I can't tell him without getting upset. I email him or try over the phone. This doesn't work. He never wants to hear the bad he only wants things to always be on the upbeat. However, I have issues I want to discuss. I feel he keeps me from expressing my feelings which turn into resentment. Lately, I have really been questioning my relationship. Please help me. I'm getting married in four months and am afraid of failing. Please Help ME!!!! Any advice will much be appreciated. I need to hear an expert's advice. Thank you, Missie in Selmer
My problem is quite unique. I have a preteen Granddaughter, Allemai, that rides with me when school is out. I work as a Contractor Inspector for a State Agency and almost all of my workday is spent outside in various locations. Allemai is fantastic company and very congenial. We have one area of disagreement and it is huge.
I like to go by rural cemeteries and take my breaks there. My assigned work area is largely in an area that I grew up in and most of these cemeteries hold a former friend, kin, former schoolmate, or someone that I knew. By getting in the proper frame of mind most of these deceased can be communicated with. But it must not be rushed and there should not be any distraction while in conversation with them. Allemai does not like for us to stop at these cemeteries, she says it is spooky.
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There is a problem with my Michie, TN Great-Grandson.
To my knowledge he has never been gainfully employed, nor has he ever sought employment. There are plenty of jobs in the Michie area. He seems to be perfectly content to let his hardworking Mother and his equally hardworking Grandmother make the living. If he is not inclined to seek employment, he should help out around the house but he doesn't. He is an intelligent person and a quick learner, but unmotivated. This was not the nature of his Mother or
grandmother, from early childhood on they were up their ears in whatever endeavor my wife and I were engaged in. Would you recommend that he see a motivation councelor, cut his allowance, take away his auto priviledge (he seldom drives anyway), or just let it slide? Don't recommend chastisement, it goes in one ear and out the other.
Not one to brag, but I am a very compassionate person.
There is a king sized problem with a grand daughter that takes trips and gets in desperate straights in foreign countries.
My thoughts are that she should be made to pick up empty drink cans for survival. There really are two problems; one is our granddaughter very likely going hungry, which is her problem not mine; the other problem is my wife is not at all supportive of my take, she says it unthinkable to let her go hungry anywhere, especially in a foreign land. I know she would be without food for maybe a week or more at times, but people have survived much longer, to wit; the Holocaust. Some of those people went weeks without food. At the end of WW11 lots of people in Europe subsisted on cats for food. The last time she ran out of money she was somewhere in Europe and I’m sure there were plenty of cats there then. She could have grabbed a young one and gone to any park there, nearly all of them have grills. Besides what could be more quaint than BBQ cat in such a setting. This been very troubling to me, I desperately need some direction in this.
- A very compassionate, but very troubled, heart in Michie.
P.S. ....I will finish this one inch thick T-Bone with all the trimmings while I await your reply.
2nd P.S....Although I am very compassionate, fingers have been pointed at me from time to time for not helping old ladies at walklights. But my thoughts are that they are nothing but a nuisance anyway and they should have kept their limping selves at home and not get in the way.
Dear Mitzy
