Dear Mitzy,

I am a well known person in Corinth, MS and have a major problem. I have been married to a woman who I will call Jane. We are married now for 35 years. Jane is a good wife and a great partner. We have never had a problem until just recently. We were to attend a banquet for a dear friend of ours and she was in the shower. Her cell phone rang and they left a voice message. We have an understanding that our cell phones are private. I told her that she had a call and a message was left on her phone. Having 3 children that live out of the house, I thought it could be important. She took the phone and went into the bathroom and closed the door. We always had a marriage of trust. The next day was a Sunday and I usually after church take my 16 year old son to the shooting range where we compete together in matches. Usually we are there for three hours and then go home and we all go out for dinner.

This Sunday was a bit different, when we got to the Range they told us it was closed for some remodeling and would be open by next Sunday. My son and I decided to stop by a sporting goods store and we then headed fo home. When we arrived at the house there was a car parked out in front. We never gave it a bit of attention and went into the house. My son wanted to show his mother a new scope he purchased for his rifle and walked into a room that had two persons, one his mother, the other a well known person in the community, embraced. I did not see this because I was in another area of the house. My son came to me when the other man left and told me of what he saw. I confronted my wife and she said that he came by to tell her of his wife who is terribly ill. She told me she was just comforting him at a bad time. I have always trusted my wife, so I believed her and went about our Sunday routine.

The other day I was having lunch with a neighbor who works in the same building. I mentioned this other mans wife being ill and he said that she works with his wife and she seemed fine yesterday. I mentioned his car parked out in front of the house and my lunch partner told me that it's always parked out front every Sunday for the past 6-7 weeks.

Mitzy, my wife and I have always been straight with each other. Never a problem between each other. I'm afraid to find out the true facts. What should I do? I love her still and will do anything to keep from losing her. Mitzy, please help me.

Worried in Corinth

Dear Worried,

The name fits well. You have a right to be worried. Seeing how you feel about this situation, I am going to suggest that both of you sit down and work this out. When you confront her you will know in a second what she has in mind. I know that you probably won't see him again at your home. Be forthright and explain the facts and ask for an explanation. If you still feel the way you do then suggest a plan to get back on track. Take her on a long cruise, just the two of you and rekindle the flame that once was. If there is a spark in one or the others eyes for the other then work it out. I hope this helps and write back to let us know what's going on.

Mitzy