Dear Mitzy,

I have a sister who has a very bad habit of showing up for dinner every single Sunday. It's so annoying that she does this. My husband is about ready to have her hi-jacked on her way over here. She knows that we eat around 2pm and she has a knack of showing up at 1:45. She always says that she didn't know we were ready to eat. Reluctantly, I always say to sit down and we get her a plate. She even has the nerve to say that the food is spicy or that the meat isn't cooked all the way.

Sometimes my temper wants to go through the roof. I can feel my blood pressure going sky high. What can I do to get her to understand that she is a royal pain. My sister is 51 years old and can't cook anything. She once fixed us chili and the whole family was in the bathrooms for three days. Thank God we have three full baths in the house.

My husband saw her coming up the walk with a pan in her hand and he broke out in a rash and had convulsions. We need your advice on this one. Please help us Mitzy.

Very Upset in Stantonville   

Dear Mitzy,

My wife and I have been married 26 years.  She recently started to be stand- offish to me and I have been worried about this.  I even have times when I think she is seeing someone else.  I sat down with her last week and she and I talked about a few things.  She said that we don't do anything together.  That we go out for dinner once or twice a year.  That we took a vacation together in 1989.  She said she needs some life in her marriage.  Mitzy, she only cooks 6 nights a week.  There is one night a week that I bring burgers home so she doesn't have to cook.  She has a nice life and I can't figure out why she's so unhappy.  Please help me.

Puzzled in Savannah, TN